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Life's A Chibi: Giving and Taking
There are those who love to make other people happy. They share their gifts and spoils to those who don't have any because they want others to be happy. They go to lengths to make others happy. It brings them a sense of joy, accomplishment and comfort to know that they made someone happy for something they shared through a selfless act of compassion and kindness. There are times when they do it for karma: a spiritual principle of cause and effect where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect). Doing good actions will later return with positive rewards.
Sometimes, those who love to make others happy go a bit beyond their limits. They give more than what they have and end up with nothing to give to themselves. They give too much without thinking about what they want or themselves. There are times they sacrifice what they want to make someone else happy, or because it is hard for them to say "No".
There are those who take what they can and give very little to nothing back. They will take what is offered without giving anything back. They think about what they need and what they want without a sense of gratitude towards the other. If they are denied what they can't have from the provider, they will guilt trip them or go to lengths to argue with them until they get what they want or something near equal value. This can range from an object, to time and attention. They are always in the spotlight and demand others to keep shining the spot light on them and fulfill their needs.
Selfless people love to give and sometimes have no thought about getting anything back. As long as they make other people feel happy about what they provide and feel a sense of accomplishment and a reminder that they are a good person doing good deeds for others, that's all that matters. But sometimes they need to be a bit selfish and need to start taking more than receiving. They give so much that soon they start to feel hollow inside and wish to have their void filled in order to continue to give or feel like what they are giving is appreciated by getting something in return. If they feel they can't get their void filled due to giving too much, they break down emotionally, physically and/or physiologically. A car can get you from point A to point B, but after a while, you need to give the car some gas in order for it to continue moving. You can continue to push the car until it is running on fumes, but that just ends up damaging the car.
If something that someone did for you that made your life easier, that gave you a sense of joy and happiness, or gave you something that you long wanted for but you yourself could never obtain it, take a moment out of your life to do something nice for them in return - something meaningful and fulfilling. A positive plus a positive always equal a positive in the end. One good deed deserves another.
artwork © 2016 Alex Cockburn
Sometimes, those who love to make others happy go a bit beyond their limits. They give more than what they have and end up with nothing to give to themselves. They give too much without thinking about what they want or themselves. There are times they sacrifice what they want to make someone else happy, or because it is hard for them to say "No".
There are those who take what they can and give very little to nothing back. They will take what is offered without giving anything back. They think about what they need and what they want without a sense of gratitude towards the other. If they are denied what they can't have from the provider, they will guilt trip them or go to lengths to argue with them until they get what they want or something near equal value. This can range from an object, to time and attention. They are always in the spotlight and demand others to keep shining the spot light on them and fulfill their needs.
Selfless people love to give and sometimes have no thought about getting anything back. As long as they make other people feel happy about what they provide and feel a sense of accomplishment and a reminder that they are a good person doing good deeds for others, that's all that matters. But sometimes they need to be a bit selfish and need to start taking more than receiving. They give so much that soon they start to feel hollow inside and wish to have their void filled in order to continue to give or feel like what they are giving is appreciated by getting something in return. If they feel they can't get their void filled due to giving too much, they break down emotionally, physically and/or physiologically. A car can get you from point A to point B, but after a while, you need to give the car some gas in order for it to continue moving. You can continue to push the car until it is running on fumes, but that just ends up damaging the car.
If something that someone did for you that made your life easier, that gave you a sense of joy and happiness, or gave you something that you long wanted for but you yourself could never obtain it, take a moment out of your life to do something nice for them in return - something meaningful and fulfilling. A positive plus a positive always equal a positive in the end. One good deed deserves another.
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Or maybe 'Always consider yourself before you give everything away to someone else.'
or
'Be sure who you're sharing yourself with is actually worth the effort.'
The whole 'fuck people' mentality seems to end up with everyone living alone and glaring suspiciously at each other, which seems to be the whole problem with the world today. No one thinks anyone else has any worth, so everyone treats each other like assholes just because.
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'Be sure who you're sharing yourself with is actually worth the effort.'
The whole 'fuck people' mentality seems to end up with everyone living alone and glaring suspiciously at each other, which seems to be the whole problem with the world today. No one thinks anyone else has any worth, so everyone treats each other like assholes just because.
I completely agree with all of this.
As someone who was pretty much the good person who gets shat upon, you do develop the "fuck people" mentality over time, and it only dwindles with those you trust a bunch. You get scared of people, what they think of you as a whole, and basically developing mental conditions as a result if, as a result, the minicomic's last two panels don't happen.
Basically, some people are cunts, and you can't change them, so why bother pursuing a social status with them?
As someone who was pretty much the good person who gets shat upon, you do develop the "fuck people" mentality over time, and it only dwindles with those you trust a bunch. You get scared of people, what they think of you as a whole, and basically developing mental conditions as a result if, as a result, the minicomic's last two panels don't happen.
Basically, some people are cunts, and you can't change them, so why bother pursuing a social status with them?
first looking like it'd end totally sad - being totally the nice person, sharing with everyone and neither getting anything back nor being able to have something for oneself, even if it were something for oneself...and then the end with somebody actually giving something back - something only rarely happens and IMHO only with real friends.
loving it <3
loving it <3
I remember in 3rd grade one day I brought a big batch of cookies in class, since my mother made extras, she said why not a whole other batch. Me and the teacher brought the whole tray in, and everyone jumped straight to the plate, took the cookies, and not a single one ever said thanks.
See, this is why if you make cookies, you get to take one off the top of the batch. Also in a perfect world, being a jerk to someone who did a Nice Thing should bar you from the effects of the Nice Thing, though in practice the baker probably doesn't want to be mean, even if that guy probably deserved it. At least the puppy is there to pay kindness forward. :)
After nearly a month of not drawing, I need to get back to it.
Here feels like a good place to put this. :3
Anyone who sees this comment can reply or note me for a free drawing~
I think I'll try experimenting, too.
Hopefully it doesn't turn out I'm horribly wrong and this is rude >__<
Apparently I'm a poor judge of when and where to say things.
Here feels like a good place to put this. :3
Anyone who sees this comment can reply or note me for a free drawing~
I think I'll try experimenting, too.
Hopefully it doesn't turn out I'm horribly wrong and this is rude >__<
Apparently I'm a poor judge of when and where to say things.
Aw, thanks c:
Sometimes I just take long, unexpected breaks.
This time was because I wore myself out by drawing too much too quickly (http://artfight.net) and then also got disctracted by various things.
Sometimes I just take long, unexpected breaks.
This time was because I wore myself out by drawing too much too quickly (http://artfight.net) and then also got disctracted by various things.
I was the one handing out cookies, even during a very bad patch of my life (losing both my grandfather and mother within a year of each other, having my confidence in my art and myself destroyed by someone I trusted and looked up to, my boyfriend nearly dying of undiagnosed diabetes... all in the same year) and I self destructed.
Now... I can no longer draw, barely write and can't work in stressful or work environments due to the anxiety I have. Out of everyone I know, only two give back to me (my boyfriend and an online buddy). It hasn't stopped me "making cookies" though. If I can, I'll help, even if it's going to break me.
Now... I can no longer draw, barely write and can't work in stressful or work environments due to the anxiety I have. Out of everyone I know, only two give back to me (my boyfriend and an online buddy). It hasn't stopped me "making cookies" though. If I can, I'll help, even if it's going to break me.
I can relate to this, I used to hand out a lot of stuff to friends to make them happy, until I couldn't give anymore, then I lost friends because well, they were leeches x-x
When I could give out again, I only gave out to those whom I cared about. But some asked for more and never gave back. I lost more friends... This one hurt ;~;
Now I give to those whom I truly care about, Those who ask only get it when I feel generous enough, but I warn them not to ask again, if they do. I remove them from my life.
There's a big thing I learned from this, Hold your friends dear, but keep the ones you trust close. If you can rest upon their shoulders. They are the most valuable thing you can posses.
The greedy leeches in the world will take and take, it hurts to see your generousity being taken for granted...
When I could give out again, I only gave out to those whom I cared about. But some asked for more and never gave back. I lost more friends... This one hurt ;~;
Now I give to those whom I truly care about, Those who ask only get it when I feel generous enough, but I warn them not to ask again, if they do. I remove them from my life.
There's a big thing I learned from this, Hold your friends dear, but keep the ones you trust close. If you can rest upon their shoulders. They are the most valuable thing you can posses.
The greedy leeches in the world will take and take, it hurts to see your generousity being taken for granted...
The next to the last pic... seeing the sweet heart there with the empty tray and just a few crumbs left from all the work and then kindness that was so freely given..
It hurts. Seeing that he has nothing left after giving so much of himself and his labors and time.
but the redemption of compassion and caring given back.. ahhhh... to hug and hold and pet the beautiful heart through other acts of kindness to show that in this time of such adversity and "uncaring" selfishness... one can give too much till it does hurt to offer so deeply.
Yes, take care and save something for yourself.. but keep too in your heart that every once in a while.. that kindness comes back three fold on you because the universe likes showing that no kind heart will ever go unpunished if it is true and warm from birth till the end of it's days. What comes beyond that time is even more of a reward a hundred times over for all the time given in life just trying to use what one has to try to make others occasional happy purely out of a simple " need" To do so.
* Goddess bless and shower love upon those who give thus... and more so those who REMEMBER and give back for that same kindness so freely shared*
It hurts. Seeing that he has nothing left after giving so much of himself and his labors and time.
but the redemption of compassion and caring given back.. ahhhh... to hug and hold and pet the beautiful heart through other acts of kindness to show that in this time of such adversity and "uncaring" selfishness... one can give too much till it does hurt to offer so deeply.
Yes, take care and save something for yourself.. but keep too in your heart that every once in a while.. that kindness comes back three fold on you because the universe likes showing that no kind heart will ever go unpunished if it is true and warm from birth till the end of it's days. What comes beyond that time is even more of a reward a hundred times over for all the time given in life just trying to use what one has to try to make others occasional happy purely out of a simple " need" To do so.
* Goddess bless and shower love upon those who give thus... and more so those who REMEMBER and give back for that same kindness so freely shared*
I love this because it perfectly illustrates (No pun intended) the cycle of charity.
Anger reverberates. Kindness reciprocates. You get back what you give, but the action determines the reason.
If you are harsh and abrasive to others, they will harden themselves to you, and you will have to deal with your own abrasive nature alone. If you are kind and gentle, others will be too, and you can all be happy together.
Anger reverberates. Kindness reciprocates. You get back what you give, but the action determines the reason.
If you are harsh and abrasive to others, they will harden themselves to you, and you will have to deal with your own abrasive nature alone. If you are kind and gentle, others will be too, and you can all be happy together.
This actually brought a few tears to my eyes.
I'm exactly like this. To me the best feeling is seeing someone I barely know smile and see the gratitude in their eyes. Even getting neither of those I feel happy knowing I may have made someones day a bit better if it wasn't already going that way.
And then I tear myself apart when I can't give...
I can't give that homeless man the five dollars in my wallet, cause I'm down to my last dregs before a paycheck and every dollar counts or some other reason....I know that but I still feel awful.
This comic really made me smile. Especially the ending.
"But sometimes they need to be a bit selfish and need to start taking more than receiving."
This is hard for me to do, but you're not the only one I've heard and read this from...
It's hard as someone so adamant on giving and helping to be selfish from time to time and get what they need.
But I am getting better at the word no. And not letting myself be taken advantage of, as well as learning that I need to take care of myself first, otherwise I'll do exactly what you said in your description and end up with nothing, and end up hurting myself financially it has happened a few times.
Again a very sweet comic,
thanks for drawing ^^
I'm exactly like this. To me the best feeling is seeing someone I barely know smile and see the gratitude in their eyes. Even getting neither of those I feel happy knowing I may have made someones day a bit better if it wasn't already going that way.
And then I tear myself apart when I can't give...
I can't give that homeless man the five dollars in my wallet, cause I'm down to my last dregs before a paycheck and every dollar counts or some other reason....I know that but I still feel awful.
This comic really made me smile. Especially the ending.
"But sometimes they need to be a bit selfish and need to start taking more than receiving."
This is hard for me to do, but you're not the only one I've heard and read this from...
It's hard as someone so adamant on giving and helping to be selfish from time to time and get what they need.
But I am getting better at the word no. And not letting myself be taken advantage of, as well as learning that I need to take care of myself first, otherwise I'll do exactly what you said in your description and end up with nothing, and end up hurting myself financially it has happened a few times.
Again a very sweet comic,
thanks for drawing ^^
Its sad that some people would take advantage over another person like that. I know how it feels too, always bake a secondary batch just for myself when I do things like that since people would just take and take without giving anything in return, heck I may not expect a thing from it except a "thank you" but it hurts when they dont even say that. But there is atleast one or two people in the world when I make a batch would go out and say thank you, and those poeople I give a couplpe extra cookies for them, (if its cookies...sometimes it other things like cupcakes etc...) and it keeps me optimistic and helps me continue to make more. Still love your work o-kemono~ ^~^
I live by the whole Pay it forward. One good deed deserves another. when you give without expecting anything in return. When you can give someone hope and turn around and disapper into the crowd before they can offer anything knowing you did the right thing being reward enough. You will get what you deserve in the end. Whether its karma or what ever else you believe in. It will come to you. So I agree with this :)
Reminds me of the bible story of Jesus and the lepers. He had healed a group of lepers. Most just took off after. Out of the whole group only one turned back after to thank him.
Sometimes we must remember to thank people who sacrifice their time and effort to do good things.
As those people sometimes we must remember to take care of ourselves.
Sometimes we must remember to thank people who sacrifice their time and effort to do good things.
As those people sometimes we must remember to take care of ourselves.
Selfish people can turn you a bit cynical as you meet them. Like a steady drop of water on a stone, it can break even the strongest of wills til the point you start to become closed and become an average, boring individual. It isn't totally your fault that you're willing to open your heart to share and to give to anyone, it's those that don't appreciate those rare few that happens to exist in the world. Events like these can go both ways. It can mature you by making you choosing what you can afford to give freely, or it can cause you to be over protective by closing your heart to the world. It's always important to guard your heart and don't let people change you for the worse. Learn from it, bend freely and adjust. Because it's the giving that gives love and hope back to the world.
Sounds nice, but I can't close out without telling my ☯yin side.
People who give things out freely or of lower value are labeled to not have anything of real value to give. A cookie that is exclusive or with a bigger dollar price tag on them will taste better than those that cost less or easily obtained to those with the mentality. It is because it took effort or a trade to obtain it. Give a child a bike out of love and watch them wreck it within weeks, but obtain it from a matter of work and effort and they will value to take better care of it. Giving your love and passion freely through your hobbies is both a boon and a bane, because if you don't put value in your work, no one else will. Love with a fair heart, and they will have no choice but to return it in fairness.
Sounds nice, but I can't close out without telling my ☯yin side.
People who give things out freely or of lower value are labeled to not have anything of real value to give. A cookie that is exclusive or with a bigger dollar price tag on them will taste better than those that cost less or easily obtained to those with the mentality. It is because it took effort or a trade to obtain it. Give a child a bike out of love and watch them wreck it within weeks, but obtain it from a matter of work and effort and they will value to take better care of it. Giving your love and passion freely through your hobbies is both a boon and a bane, because if you don't put value in your work, no one else will. Love with a fair heart, and they will have no choice but to return it in fairness.
I get this almost all the time. The times i mostly DONT get it is during streams, until i say i don't draw a certain thing or two then i get bashed in for being closed-minded or what ever discriminate thing they wanna call me. People don't know this can ruin things for others, free things. Like that white (pup?), they could have said next time: No cookies for anyone.
things can be ruined in an instant, i just hate being taken advantage of and realizing it later when its too late to do anything.
things can be ruined in an instant, i just hate being taken advantage of and realizing it later when its too late to do anything.
And that's pretty much how I pick my friends. Those that give back. That's how you make me continue to give you things at all, haha.
I also like how the friend that gave back cookies was the only one that didn't just go and take the other person's cookies, he didn't even ask/command to have any and left. He stayed humble. <3
I also like how the friend that gave back cookies was the only one that didn't just go and take the other person's cookies, he didn't even ask/command to have any and left. He stayed humble. <3
I can empathize with that cookie baker. I have been doing this going on 25 years now... and I have done loads of things to help furs out. Sometimes people forget that no good deed goes unpunished but then again.. it doesn't take much to say thank you.
I can't even begin to put a monetary value on all this because .. frankly.. I have lost count. Yep.. gone that far. However, if you do good just to get good done back to you.. you're doing it wrong. I do it because its something to do.
Am I going to stop being kind and such? Of course not.. but I have to be careful and I have to see what the new year brings. People try to plan months at a time.. but we all have to live day by day.
I can't even begin to put a monetary value on all this because .. frankly.. I have lost count. Yep.. gone that far. However, if you do good just to get good done back to you.. you're doing it wrong. I do it because its something to do.
Am I going to stop being kind and such? Of course not.. but I have to be careful and I have to see what the new year brings. People try to plan months at a time.. but we all have to live day by day.
This happened to me, except for the last frame. but instead of cookies it was video games, I spent all my money buying video games that my friends on steam wanted, but then i didn't have any money to get myself anything. I don't expect my friends to buy me anything in return, i just like making them happy and saving them $50 :)
Im not sure if this would count as tooting my own horn but - I've been doing this for awhile, when I go to conventions to the art auctions. I bid and or buy alot of art from it, a few big name artists but mostly small ones for many reasons. But first let me say.....I dont keep any of the art, i havent for a long time - what ive been doing is getting them....then giving them away to con goers who dont really have any spare money to buy such things at a con or even money for a commission. But I also do it to help out the artists who worked so hard on these pieces, and the con itself of course.
I think this story fits this scenario....does it?
If not I've also made 32 inch cookies for my friends who needed a pick me up, even those far away, i package it and mail it too them priority X3
I think this story fits this scenario....does it?
If not I've also made 32 inch cookies for my friends who needed a pick me up, even those far away, i package it and mail it too them priority X3
That mouse was a bit of a jerk, but that "selfish" quote really sets my anger ablaze. It's people like that that say by not giving up everything for other's you are being selfish, or those who think only they matter, anyone who says "you need to give that to me or you are being greedy" are utterly hypocritical and reprehensible, and need a lesson in what the word truly means.
... damn, that’s so very relatable. Unfortunately allot of people are like that, not everyone obviously, but allot. It can be as simple as something like asking how someone is, and they don’t ask back. I’m not saying i’m super selfless, but I do like making others happy, and i sometimes burn myself out sometimes in doing so. thank you very much for drawing this, it was very emotionally resonant for me 💚💚 *hugs before handing you some cookies*
1st furry - gets offered a cookie
2nd furry - asks for cookie
3rd and 4th - assumes they can have a cookie (or 2)
5th furry - demands last cookie
At least the first 2 were polite in the interactions, never assume people always ask for the cookie and don’t throw a hissy fit if you say no
And the first furry deserves hugs for bringing cookies to the original cookie maker
2nd furry - asks for cookie
3rd and 4th - assumes they can have a cookie (or 2)
5th furry - demands last cookie
At least the first 2 were polite in the interactions, never assume people always ask for the cookie and don’t throw a hissy fit if you say no
And the first furry deserves hugs for bringing cookies to the original cookie maker
I'm surprised nobody's admonished the grey cat: Sure, they asked politely - but the they took not one, but three cookies!
There's clearly two other cookies missing between the cat's interaction and the fox in the next Panel. Still, it's a great comic with a meaningful moral - even if I've never experienced the return benefit displayed in the last panel...
There's clearly two other cookies missing between the cat's interaction and the fox in the next Panel. Still, it's a great comic with a meaningful moral - even if I've never experienced the return benefit displayed in the last panel...
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